An Attitude of Gratitude

How Can I Thank You?

Yes, it is proper and necessary for the well-mannered to write a thank-you note for all gifts and out-of-the-ordinary deeds of kindness and thoughtfulness. A rule of thumb: if you think, "I should thank Bill/Susan," then get out your writing paper or thank-you note. That established, what to put in that handwritten, snail-mailed note?

Don't be aloof and generic:

Susan,

Thanks for picking up the check the other day. Great to see you.

Bob

Take the time to personalize your note:

Susan,

How kind of you to treat me to lunch Friday. It was wonderful to catch up on how your family is doing and hear about your recent vacation. It's always a pleasure to enjoy your company. Next treat's on me.

Warmly,
Bob

I thought I'd include the text of one of my young children's thank-you notes, un-coached, for a recent gift. She has learned well!

Dear Claire,

Thank you so much for my necklace. It is so beautiful! I wore it to my first dance! People complimented me on it, and I said, "Thank you! It is from my cousin Claire (whom I love!) [yes, she wrote 'whom'!] Thank you again.

Love,
Katerina

Remember, it doesn't matter if the deed or gift was pricey or simple. Send that note on your mature, refined stationary or note card. And be prompt about it so that you're less likely to forget. You'll be glad you expressed your gratitude and offered the small gift of your time in return.

Thank you kindly for reading this issue's image tip.

Until next time, my best,
Beth